Top 30 Relationship Anger Quotes (+FREE Relationship Worksheets)

This post contains some of the best relationship anger quotes to help you improve your relationship.

Relationship Anger Quotes

1. “Anger spoils relationships where there should be great reciprocity.” – Robert A.F. Thurman

2. “Anyone can become angry. That is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose and in the right way… that is not easy.” – Aristotle

3. “In a good relationship, people get angry, but in a very different way. The Marriage Masters see a problem a bit like a soccer ball. They kick it around. It’s ‘our’ problem.” – John M Gottman

4. “Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend a little than to break.” – Jane Wells

5. “Remember, if you want to love your life and live it to the fullest, don’t let the sun go down on your anger. If you don’t have a solution to the issue, agree to disagree and focus on the importance of the relationship.” –Victoria Osteen

6. “When a man can listen to a woman’s feelings without getting angry and frustrated, he gives her an incredible gift. He makes it safe for her to express herself. The more she is able to express herself, the more she feels heard and understood, and the more she is able to give a man the loving trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement that he needs.” – John Gray

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7. “The perfect relationship is not that you never get angry, upset or irritated with each other… It’s how fast you resolve & bounce back to normal.” – Unknown

8. “Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the cruelest words.” – Joyce Brothers

9. “If we are to feel the positive feelings of love, happiness, trust, and gratitude, we periodically also have to feel anger, sadness, fear, and sorrow.” – John Gray

10. “It’s impossible to remain angry at someone you truly love. Anger lasting for more than 3 days indicates that you’re not in love.” – Unknown

11. “A moment of patience in a moment of anger saves a thousand moments of regret.” – Unknown

12. “Sometimes in anger, some wrong words come out of our mouths to our loved ones. This wrong word out in anger can end the relationship. That is why it is very important to control anger.” – Unknown

13. “Anger doesn’t solve anything. It builds nothing, but it can destroy everything.” – Lawrence Douglas Wilder

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14. “A moment of anger can destroy a lifetime of work, whereas a moment of love can break barriers that took a lifetime to build.” – Leon Brown

15. “If you care about the relationship, cool down before you speak. Because when you blurt, you hurt.” – Unknown

16. “Let your love be stronger than your hate or anger.” – Jane Wells

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17. “Always remember when it comes to family arguments and disputes. Blood is thicker than anger.” – Stanley Victor Paskavich

18. “Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.”- Barbara Johnson

19. “Peace is not the absence of conflict; it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.” – Ronald Reagan

20. “Instead of suppressing conflicts, specific channels could be created to make this conflict explicit, and specific methods could be set up by which the conflict is resolved.” – Albert Low

21. “Peace cannot be kept by force. It can only be achieved by understanding.” – Albert Einstein

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22. “Contempt is the number one relationship killer, according to The Gottman Institute, which has empirically studied the science of relationships for decades. If a critical statement sounds like “I don’t like that,” a contemptuous statement escalates it to “I don’t like that and you’re a piece of shit because of it.” It’s normal to feel anger and resentment, and even contempt at times. But beware of bottling emotions and letting anger and disappointment morph into full-on contempt. Releasing it as objective statements of what is troubling you, framed in kind or forgiving language, will be much more palatable and convincing.” – Morgan Johnson

23. “When pursuing partners reach out to repair disconnection, a negative response from a partner fuels an intensified protest in the form of criticism, blame, demands, or threats. Their pain and fear in the disconnection appear as anger and aggressiveness to the withdrawing partner, who feels threatened by the increased conflict. The withdrawing partner will commonly stem the tide of emotions with defensiveness, stonewalling (refusing to respond), or pulling away. That retreat then fuels even more intensity in the pursuing partner, which is met with increased withdrawal, and around and around they go, paradoxically creating in each other the very responses they desire the least.” – Lori Cluff Schade

24. “Emotions that underlie and drive the more obvious coping emotions; for example, anger is often a coping emotion fueled by a core emotion of hurt or fear.” – Lori Cluff Schade

25. “Anger is one of the most painful emotions we experience, and the most difficult to use wisely and well. Yet our anger is an important signal that always deserves our attention and respect. The difficulty is that feeling angry doesn’t tell us what is wrong, or what specifically we can do that will make things better rather than worse.” – Harriet Lerner

26. “The challenge of anger is at the heart of our struggle to achieve intimacy, self-esteem, and joy. Learning how to deal with it is worth the journey, even though there are no six-easy-steps to personal fulfillment and relational bliss.” – Harriet Lerner

27. “Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to. Our anger may be a message that we are being hurt, that our rights are being violated, that our needs or wants are not being adequately met, or simply that something is not right. Our anger may tell us that we are not addressing an important emotional issue in our lives, or that too much of our self— our beliefs, values, desires, or ambitions—is being compromised in a relationship. Our anger may be a signal that we are doing more and giving more than we can comfortably do or give. Or our anger may warn us that others are doing too much for us, at the expense of our own competence and growth.” – Harriet Lerner

28. “The taboos against our feeling and expressing anger are so powerful that even knowing when we are angry is not a simple matter. When a woman shows her anger, she is likely to be dismissed as irrational or worse.” – Harriet Lerner

29. “Anger is neither legitimate nor illegitimate, meaningful nor pointless. Anger simply is. To ask, “Is my anger legitimate?” is similar to asking, “Do I have a right to be thirsty? After all, I just had a glass of water fifteen minutes ago. Surely my thirst is not legitimate. And besides, what’s the point of getting thirsty when I can’t get anything to drink now, anyway?” Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel—and certainly our anger is no exception.” – Harriet Lerner

30. “If our old familiar ways of managing anger are not working for us, chances are that we fall into one or both of the following categories: In the “nice-lady” category, we attempt to avoid anger and conflict at all costs. In the “bitch” category, we get angry with ease, but we participate in ineffective fighting, complaining, and blaming that leads to no constructive resolution.” – Harriet Lerner

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